So in my previous life before I was a parent, I used to find it strange, even amusing, when friends of mine would stress over which school their kids would go to. I did think the stresses came at Senior level not Primary level but boy has it hit me hard! The words ‘Catchment Area, Admission Forms, Over Subscribed, OffSted, Fees, Your Childs Future’ all panic me more than I ever thought.
Rockstar doesn’t start school until 2019, he will be one of the oldest in the class, I think he would be ready to go this year. Although not sure I am ready.
Currently he’s at a great nursery and loves it but 98% of his peers will be leaving in September to go to school, so not only am I worrying about where he should go next year, I’m worrying about him being left in pre-school with lots of ‘ickle Kids’
As we know he does have a tendency to enjoy the company of the older boys, being boisterous, leading them and being led, so come September the kids he has been playing with and learning from are all leaving so maybe he will calm down and listen more. That would be a positive outcome.
However, my worry is that he will spend 12 months coasting along, not aspiring to learn and just play. I don’t want him to start on the back foot when he starts Primary School.
So we have been talking about sending him to Kindergarten of a Private school. He will be in a school environment and although they still play, he will be wearing a uniform, in a class room and learning on a daily basis. Cost wise it isn’t very different from our current situation (until next September of course when the fees go up) and although I never thought I would pay for my child’s junior education I am really considering this to be our option.
Should he go to into Kindergarten this September it would cut out all that stress and worry of what school we should apply for in 2019. He’d already be there. We would have to make changes to enable him to stay there but I’d happily do that. I even said I’d forfeit our holidays – I know!
That said there is a good state school near our current home but the one I have an emotional tie too is slightly further away and we would have to consider moving or just taking the risk when it comes to filling in those dreaded forms in January.
That could be mean moving him twice if we weren’t keeping him in the private school. I don’t think the move this year from Nursery to Kindergarten would have any affect on him as all of his friends are leaving too, but moving him again next summer for a new school start may be too disruptive or will it?
I’ve looked around schools to give me some idea as to what they offer, some I have loved and others not so much. Whenever I talk about it, which seems to be all the time these days friends have said ‘We have lots of great schools don’t worry’. My answer is that they may all be good but they need to fit my son. It’s been suggested that paying for my sons junior years education is wasted, I did agree at one point but every child is different and needs different things from school.
Other mums have reminded me I have ages to decide, which is true but not if we have to sell our house to move to an area nearer that right school. I laugh at this because I really didn’t think I would ever be that person.
Some have said not to work about Primary and concentrate on Senior School choice, well if I have my way we will all be living on a beach somewhere super sunny and I’ll be sending him out in his boat to catch tea (I have just bought a lottery ticket to help with this dream) I really can’t think that far ahead yet.
I have another few months before I need to decide on this September and a few more before those dreaded forms need filling in for next year but how we do we know which one is right for our child? does the choice at Primary level have a massive effect on your child’s upbringing?
The whole process has turned me in to a paranoid, anxious parent that cries at the thought of not getting it right for him.
I know my son and I know that currently he needs some structure for him to excel in the areas he is already proving to enjoy but whether that’s now or later, in a smaller class room or the village primary, I am still none the wiser.
A decision will need to be made at some point and I can say with my hand on my heart it will be the best decision. It may not be the same as anyone else but we as parents are given the responsibility to lead our child and do what we think is right.
I just hope I make the right choice, for him.